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Since I’ve been using the techniques I have
learned it made it so easy to respond to my
daughter when she left her strings at home and
asked me to bring it. I locked in that empathy,
told her, “Oh bummer!” She says, “Can you bring
it to school?” I said, I’m sorry but I’m unable
to do that, but be sure to put it by the door
tomorrow. She was shocked. She actually thought
I was coming. Barbara Raines 5-12-03
I don’t have children yet, but took the class to
prepare for the time when I do have children. I
am using the techniques on my nephew and husband
with success. Wendy Mall-Mckee 5-12-03
Our
child didn’t want to eat what was served. He
wanted to eat only what he wanted after having a
choice the night before. We told him that he was
more than welcome not to eat what was served but
there would be nothing else till morning. He ate
everything that was served. Anonymous
5-12-03
I
feel so much better about using a parenting
technique that lovingly teaches my child an
important real life consequence while the price
is cheap. The negative overtones of “old”
parenting techniques destroy the child’s self
image and drained the parent. This is a
refreshing change! Robin McCain 5-12-03
My
15 year-old lied to me about where she was
spending the night. I found out by chatting to
the other mom. When I confronted her I said, “
You must feel so bad about lying to me.” She
said, “I do.” What are you going to do to help
me feel better?” I offered. “Well, maybe I
should go everywhere with you for a few weeks.”
She said, “No!” Then she offered…”Maybe you
should start calling the parents where I’ll be
spending the night again like you used to.” I
said, “Good idea.” Susie Mercer 5-12-03
We
were at Disney World. My daughter’s desire for
toys was getting the better of her. I fought the
urge to give her a lecture and locked in the
empathy and she calmed down. Jan Miscannon
5-12-03
I
love you too much to argue with you… is worth
its weight in gold. Dawn Sandlin 5-12-03
I
was very skeptical about this class at first,
but I was very impressed with the way it turned
out. I am pleased with the results we have
experienced. Christopher Morris 5-13-03
Choices have worked well for me. I have a five
year old that doesn’t like to wash his hands. He
has a tendency to argue that his hands are not
dirty just to avoid washing them. After
attending this class one evening I asked my 5
year-old if he would rather use the green soap
or the red soap. He thought about it for a
second and said, “I think I’ll use the green
soap.” The next day he said, “I think we need
some green soap in the bathroom downstairs.
Washing hands is no longer a battle. Nan
Huser 5-13-03
Wonderful class! It helped a whole lot with my 7
year-old. He had eating problems and Love and
Logic helped us out with setting time limits and
giving choices. Lois Morris 5-13-03
“I
am no longer yelling at my kids. I am glad I
attended. My life is improving for the better. I
have a better relationship with my children.”
David Turner 6-25-03
“They are still adjusting to our new parenting
techniques. I expect them to push the envelope a
while longer, but there is a noticeable change.”
Carol Johnson 6-25-03
“I
think this is a very good and kind way of
parenting without stifling a child’s
personality.” Anonymous 6-25-03
“As
parents our stress level was noticeably reduced
almost immediately as we removed ourselves from
their arguments. They soon learned to
constructively communicate between themselves
because no one was coming to their rescue.”
Carol Johnson 6-25-03
“I
find that although I may not be feeling less
angry and frustrated. I am acting less
frustrated and angry.” Gary O’Connor 6-35-03
“I
gave my kids the choice of getting to school on
time, or taking their time and going in later,
but they would need to go to after school
daycare. They chose to get to school on time.
Now I get to work on time.” Paula Fearon
9-9-03
“I
felt out of control of two of my sons. They both
thought running off, manipulating, and
disrespecting me could continue. Now they know
they can trust me to love them enough to take
control of the household so they can be kids.”
Jeanette Simmons 9-9-03
I
have become aware of how my parenting has
changed while taking this class and it has
changed how I see my children and myself.
Tami Shaw 10-27-03
I
have had a success in obtaining a much less
stressful day-to-day life by means of giving the
responsibilities back to my 6 and 4 year old. I
was a constant reminder, and took the
responsibility on myself, lecturer (do you know
why you are in trouble?) And by letting go of
this, I have had a calmer, more empathic
relationship with my children. Debora Pycior
10-27-03
My
five year old now tells her 7 year-old sister,
“I love you too much to fight with you.”
Beth Zimmermon 10-27-03
Since taking this class and learning the effects
of parenting on children and their future and
how they will parent when they become parents,
the outcome of both will be determined, of the
way we relate to them. Priceless! Great course!
It has really helped me as a parent as well,
Thank you! William Shaw 10-27-03
We
say almost an immediate change in our boys! They
become more responsible and are making better
choices. It is great to have less arguing! It
takes practice to use this new approach but it’s
worth it. Stacey Martin 10-28-03
My 3
year old and 2 year old were having a fight over
toys and they wanted me to read them a book. So
I said, “I’ll be happy to read you a book when
you stop fighting.” They stopped fighting and I
read books. Andrea R. May 10-28-03
Both
boys are more responsible and accepting
consequences. Jeff Martin 10-28-03
When
saying, “I love you too much to argue” he says,
“You always say that.” But the arguing stops.
Melissa Frecking 10-28-03
I
learned to quit nagging and let my child make
mistakes. This has improved our relationship and
made her more responsible. Our home is more
peaceful and our family is working together more
rather than me doing too much and owning all the
problems. Alison Riley 10-28-03
Before love and logic we were living chaotic
lives with rate good times with our 3 and 7 year
old girls. Both are strong willed and the oldest
has ADHD. Now it isn’t perfect and we have a lot
of practicing before we are love and logic
masters but our lives are much improved and life
is good. Becky Weaver 2-24-04
My
son (8yrs) feels he can discipline our 19-month
old twins. We have asked him over and over not
to do this but it continued anyway. Finally, I
explained to him that he is not the parent and
their inappropriate behavior should be directed
to us so we could handle it. I asked him what
consequence he should have if he continues. He
decided to not have TV time that night. Normally
I would just yell at him and send him to his
room. Not now!!! Teresa Frampton 2-26-04
It’s
coming along-My husband is not going along 100%
so it’s slower but I myself am noticing a
difference beginning to take place. Also, each
child understands at a different pace. The
7-year old is doing better than the 5-year old.
I have has success with every technique I’ve
tried now its just a matter of feeling
comfortable using them on a consistent basis and
understanding which ones work the best for each
individual child. Jennifer Wright 2-26-04
There has been a noticeable change in my family
for the better. Thank you! Pam Wilson
2-26-04
“Uh
Oh, sounds like someone needs some bedroom
time,” has been and is such an effective
technique. Our son almost immediately stops
whining, crying or being too loud about nothing
and responds to us much more positively. He is
usually more open to discuss with us what choice
he will make without us having to force
something out of him. Barry Bruce 2-26-04
He
lost a toy and I helped him look for it and we
could not find it. So I said lets go home and
we’ll look tomorrow. No argument. He said OK and
we left. We used to have power struggles
constantly. Not that often now. Thank you!
Vanessa Sidwell 4-13-04
Love
and Logic has given me the tools, phrases and
support to be more confident as a parent. I also
became enlightened to know I am not a bad parent
when I take steps to take care of me.
Denise Lamb 4-13-04
I
learned how to redirect my anger and not
physically discipline my children. My kids have
learned to not like the phrase, “Oh Oh, a little
bedroom time, so sad.” But they know it is said
and done for a reason. Angela Smith 4-13-04
My
child always wants to go outside clothes on or
off. It used to be a struggle to get him clothed
to go outside. Now all I have to say is, as soon
as you get dressed we will go outside. If the
clothes come off outside I say, “Oh Oh, time to
go in.” I loved the class and it has been very
helpful though I still have to retrain myself. I
think in time the ideas will work since the ones
I have tried have made a big difference. Thank
you! Kristle Gearhart 4-13-04
Our
2-year old boy is getting the concept of, if he
wants to go outside he must pick up some toys.
At times he does this willingly when asked. Then
again, he’s 2. Robert Crowe 5-19-04
My
2-year old daughter was very demanding. “Cookie
now!” When I started saying, “I will be happy to
get you a cookie when you ask nicely.” The
demands stopped. Jenny Linger 5-19-04
One
time I told my son, “Feel free to play after you
do some homework.” He did three pages. Julie
Pace 5-19-04
My
2-year old son used to spend 3 or 4 times a
night in time out. Now he rarely goes to time
out. He has been a full 5 days without getting
put in time out. Christy Snow 5-19-04
Now
when my 2-year old daughter hits my 5-year old
son he will say, “How sad, looks like you need a
little bedroom time.” Instead of hitting back!
Melissa Gouldsmith 5-19-04
One
week after we began this class we were getting
read to leave one morning. After hearing, “I
don’t wanna wear that!” I looked at my 6-year
old and said, “Okay Jordan, this bus (my car)
leaves in 30 minutes.” “ I was wondering, are
you going to the sitters with your clothes on
your body or in your suit case?” “Remember, if
you choose the bag, the whole neighborhood will
see your Ninja Turtle underpants.” He was
dressed completely in 3 minutes. Maria
Smith Brown 5-25-04
Our
home became a new place to live in in just one
week. It was amazing the changes we say in our
4-year old and our attitude about him. Judy
Langenbalm 5-25-04
Two
weeks into the class my 4-year old was using.
‘that’s a bummer,” on his 2-year old sister.
Dave Langenbalm 5-25-04
He
had a choice to read before or after dinner in
order to watch TV. Didn’t do it so he had to
miss his show. Not happy bet knew we meant
business. Donna Smith 5-25-04
When
my 4-year old didn’t want to get dressed for
preschool I said, “You can chose to get dressed
now or you can go to school in you pajamas.” “I
don’t think they will let you play outside with
your friends in your PJ’s. “You decide, it
really doesn’t matter to me.” He chose to get
dressed. Kelly Mikkle 5-25-04
Transformed our home. I have so much more energy
at the end of the day. Tracy Turner 6-30-04
This
program is wonderful. I came to the program when
my child was 3-years old. Now I am back and he
is 8-years old. It helps at every age!
Kimberly Marsh 6-30-04
I
told my 2-year old that her loud cry hurt my
ears and that she would need to go to the garage
to cry loudly. After placing her there ONE time,
it only takes a friendly reminder and she
immediately stops crying and turns off the
tears. Tracy Turner 6-30-04
I
had a student who refused to do work at school
and then forgot to take the work home. The
parents and I visited about what to do. As long
as the son knew the consequences ahead of time
he weighed if it was worth it. When he did not
know the consequence he got better a t
completing the work. I will refer them to this
program. Susanne Rexroad 6-30-04
My
5-year old wanted to go to the park. She had a
messy room. I told her how sad, when the room is
clean I will bring you to the park. After 3 days
she came to me and said, mom be happy we can go
to the park my room is clean. Melony Bryant
10-26-04
I
have not been very diligent about enforcing yet,
but I do notice a delay in anger and it’s great!
Tracy Perry 10-26-04
My
2-year old son does great with choices. When he
is offered options he is much more likely to do
what we need. “Would you like to run or walk to
the trash and throw that away?” David
Carlson 10-25-04
With
our 2-year old we have been using the phrase
“bummer” when he’s whining or misbehaving and
then we put him in his room on a stool. He can
come out when he’s sweet. I knew he understood
this when we were at a friend’s house who had a
2-year old being taken to his room while crying.
My 2-year ol said about his friend, “bummer.”
Jaime Carlson 10-25-04
I
wish I would have done this sooner! I have seen
an improvement in the responses I receive back
from my children. There are fewer tantrums and
less arguing. I am much calmer now that I’ve
quit taking on my children’s responsibilities
along with mine. Linaya Sartain 12-09-04
Bedtime used to be a HUGE energy drain, taking
up to 2 hours a night. Now we have a pleasant
story time together and the kids are responsible
for deciding to go to sleep at a decent hour.
Sharon Keithley 12-09-04
After teaching our kids the importance of being
on time for the bus we told them they could
either be ready on time and take the bus for
free, or they could pay us for a ride to school.
The next morning they missed the bus and had to
pay $5 each for a ride to school. When asked
when they got home from school how their day
went they both asked us if they could PAY US not
to go to any more Love and Logic classes.
David Ramsey 2-14-05
One
of the most helpful things I learned in this
course was in the 1st week of class
called brain drain. It really has helped to not
get so frustrated when a child goes on and on
and on. We simply turn off our brain! Kim
Chancellor 2-14-05
We
are a work in progress. I’m looking forward to
creating success stories for our family very
soon! Thank you for helping us to discover the
Love and Logic parenting path. Kelly Bouska
2-15-05
Love
and Logic has helped me gain control over my own
emotions so I can better handle my kids. I am
enjoying parenting more and I am seeing my
children’s behavior change in a positive way.
Connie Steele 4-7-05
Catherine was misbehaving in Kinder Music. I
asked if she wanted to participate or leave. She
said participate. She started not participating.
I picked her up and we left. The next time we
left for class she talked about participating
without me saying anything. She still talks
about it. Cathy Wray 4-7-05
We
had been giving our 3-year old so many choices
that she turned it on us. During naptime she was
hungry and said, “Here are my choices you can
bring me a snack, or I can come out and get one,
because those are my choices.” Rebecca and
Andreas Stabno 4-7-05
How
to parent without anger and yelling is
valuable. Christine Robinson 5-19-05
I
used the ‘Send the Power Message’ to have a sex
talk with me teen. I started by having her
express her views on the topic first. The teen
was able to discuss her feeling and views and to
talk about the consequences. Ingenive Faith
Cobbinson 5-17-05
When
I remember to use the things I’ve leaned, 99% of
the time it works. The hard thing is when you
are tired and the day has been long. Tina
Mitchell 5-17-05
I
feel so in control as a parent, my neighbors
always look forward to hearing bout how my
Thursday night class went. I am encouraging all
of my parent friends to take this class. It is
great! Kelli Jackson 6-30-05
This
is my third time taking the class with Kerri,
and each time I learn new ideas and get
refreshed as a parent. Thank you for providing
this opportunity. Michelle Stewart 6-3 |
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